People need to realize more that what is required by a court facing the question of same sex marriage is to rule on the legal validity of the current government process called marriage in its exclusion for that. It is not its job to define or rule on the applicability of the definition of marriage on a same sex relation. In other words, it should be kept in mind that the job of that court is to update or change the government process called marriage to be legally valid. It is not the job of the court to keep or find a fit with what marriage really means.